The changing times have brought new practices and ways to get involved in the wedding of the children. If your daughter or son is home, here’s a little guide to the top 10 tips for mothers of grooms who want to help their children plan a stress free and happy wedding. Let us begin!
1. Forget about personal expectations. Nowadays, no matter who is paying what at the wedding, the general rule is that the bride and groom are the leaders in command decisions regarding the case. If! couples now eager to reflect your personal tastes in style, formality, and all the great details and little ones of your big day. So the first tip is to let go of personal expectations and support the couple with their own decisions.
2. Choose the battles. There really close to the heart and other not so much detail. The color of the napkins or the type of flowers, certainly not compared to preserve family traditions.
3. Offer your expertise. Who does not appreciate a helping hand and a sincere support? And who needs more help than a bride planning one of the most important events of your life? If you want to be involved in the process of planning the wedding the best way to participate is by offering your unconditional support. You can tell your son / daughter and partner, “Look guys, these are some of the things that can easily help them, just tell me I can do for you and I will gladly”. Most often this approach facilitates better communication and a greater appreciation of what it really means to have a mother involved in wedding planning: an invaluable help.
4. Be realistic and do not offer more help than you can give. Be sure to only offer the help you can give really considering your work and personal commitments. Sometimes you want to help as much as possible, but not always possible. It is much better to offer quality poquita help make a big impact, that much help half – which usually only causes stress and misunderstandings.
5. Get closer to the in-laws. Traditionally, once the compromise was announced, the groom’s parents contact parents of the bride to hold a meeting and know each other better. But you need not wait for this to happen. Children often organize a dinner with both parents to know each other and start talking about the wedding.
6. Avoid compete with the other mother. Sometimes compete is irresistible, often not one realizes from where competitiveness, but if there is an occasion where you want to measure is at the wedding of the children. Compete with the other mother can cause friction between families and more stress to their children. Ideally both mothers want to be support for children and perhaps even join efforts to help the couple in this important process.
7. That the mother of the bride choose her outfit first. Tradition dictates that once the mother of the bride has chosen her trousseau she inform the mother of the groom color, length and style for the second to choose a complementary trousseau (think wedding photos). Both mothers should refrain from choosing clothes in white and the colors of the wedding party (unless the bride specifically requested).
8. Wait a bit before making invitations. Although very tempting, it avoids invitations to family and friends before having in hand the guest list. Definitely you want to know in advance how many people on your side can invite and what are the conditions (plus one, with children, without children, etc.) under which invitations will be doing. This will prevent hurt feelings of people who may not reach space on the guest list and give the couple to keep the budget contro l.
9. Be discreet. If something or someone wedding is not to your liking (and do not need to discuss it – as it would be something that concerns the security of the bride and groom or the guests) then store it on deaf ears. Any criticism or comment (which could potentially be avoided) as an echo resonating end (think gossip) throughout the planning process and potentially bring bad times or negative distraction wedding day.
10. Give a gift with sentimental value. If you paid part of the wedding or honeymoon, then consider give to the couple a gift rather sentimental (not the wedding or the honeymoon does not have sentimental value). But having done spending, think better give away a family detallito, a jewel that has been in the family, or even an article of the gift table you create will enrich your daily life such as a frame for a special photo. Basically the most special gift would be no economic value but loving welcome you’re doing the couple to the family and to his new life as husband and wife.